Unsure What To Do In A Situation? Do You Need Advice?

Wc3r · **Posted:** October 13th, 2007, 11:04 pm

Well there was this girl I liked in grade 8...

After grade 8 I never really talked to her or anything (we weren't great friends but we would talk occasionally)

Yesterday my friend mentioned her to me in a random msn conversation, thought about her for a moment then went on with my day.

That night I had a weird dream which involved her and her twin sister (yes, TWIN sister. I'm not all that attracted to her though, mainly personality)

It was just us sitting in class talking about something and she leaned over and kissed me then I woke up.

Now, I know what you may think, its just a wet dream, calm down and get on with your life but ever since that dream I can't stop thinking about her...

She goes to a different school then me and I don't even know where she lives...

I looked her up on facebook and by god she has one. I never sent her a friends request though because I'm just thinking what I should say to her. Give her the old "Hey, hows it going?" or tell her how I actually feel.

I don't really know if I should try to talk to her and build a relationship from there but I would really like to date her.

Help?

Gamestar · **Posted:** October 14th, 2007, 1:52 pm

Do nothing.

You're lusting, simple as - really. You will only regret it afterwards, and you will stop thinking of her in a few days.

Wc3r · **Posted:** October 14th, 2007, 8:19 pm

Gamestar wrote:

Do nothing.

You're lusting, simple as - really. You will only regret it afterwards, and you will stop thinking of her in a few days.

Well, I sent her a facebook friends request. I keep it at that for now. If she becomes to much of a problem I'll pop the question and get it over with -_-

Re-mix · **Posted:** October 15th, 2007, 7:15 am

How do i know if a girl is interested in me?
I mean there is this girl in my school and we have known each other for like three years.
Like a year ago we could talk really well and laugh and stuff but now its like we dont speak at all.
We can give each other long looks but then we always turn our eyes away.
And now shes been talking to these other boy and people say that hes after her. But i dont know what she thinks about him or me.
The looks are still there but i dont know what they mean... And im not sure what i want. I mean shes like so good looking and has a good personality. Shes like perfect!
Wow it would really suck if that other kid steals her in front of me. But still i wonder i he would be better for her. Like i wouldnt be able to make her happy enough...

Sonata Arctica wrote:

I can see how you are beautiful, can you feel my eyes on you,
I'm shy and turn my head away
Working late in diner Citylight, I see that you get home alright
Make sure that you can't see me, hoping you will see me...

Gamestar · **Posted:** October 15th, 2007, 8:09 am

Raab Himself wrote:

Gamestar wrote:

Do nothing.

You're lusting, simple as - really. You will only regret it afterwards, and you will stop thinking of her in a few days.

Well, I sent her a facebook friends request. I keep it at that for now. If she becomes to much of a problem I'll pop the question and get it over with -_-

Trust me - don't take it any further. You will only end up in a worse position that what you think you are now. Trying to get in touch is a good idea - but keep it as a friendship, atleast for now until you are able to say that you know enough about her.

Re-mix wrote:

How do i know if a girl is interested in me?
I mean there is this girl in my school and we have known each other for like three years.
Like a year ago we could talk really well and laugh and stuff but now its like we dont speak at all.
We can give each other long looks but then we always turn our eyes away.
And now shes been talking to these other boy and people say that hes after her. But i dont know what she thinks about him or me.
The looks are still there but i dont know what they mean... And im not sure what i want. I mean shes like so good looking and has a good personality. Shes like perfect!
Wow it would really suck if that other kid steals her in front of me. But still i wonder i he would be better for her. Like i wouldnt be able to make her happy enough...

If you don't talk anymore, then try to reignite that spark. Friendship is a big key in relationships, and you will be fairly unhappy if you feel that you don't know enough about her, or that although you are dating you arn't really 'best friends' - and vice versa.
After you get past that stage, and you are talking again - if she hasn't given you enough hints to say "DO IT" then ask her out anyway - the worst thing she can do is say no.

Re-mix · **Posted:** October 15th, 2007, 12:29 pm

Gamestar wrote:

Re-mix wrote:

How do i know if a girl is interested in me?
I mean there is this girl in my school and we have known each other for like three years.
Like a year ago we could talk really well and laugh and stuff but now its like we dont speak at all.
We can give each other long looks but then we always turn our eyes away.
And now shes been talking to these other boy and people say that hes after her. But i dont know what she thinks about him or me.
The looks are still there but i dont know what they mean... And im not sure what i want. I mean shes like so good looking and has a good personality. Shes like perfect!
Wow it would really suck if that other kid steals her in front of me. But still i wonder i he would be better for her. Like i wouldnt be able to make her happy enough...

If you don't talk anymore, then try to reignite that spark. Friendship is a big key in relationships, and you will be fairly unhappy if you feel that you don't know enough about her, or that although you are dating you arn't really 'best friends' - and vice versa.
After you get past that stage, and you are talking again - if she hasn't given you enough hints to say "DO IT" then ask her out anyway - the worst thing she can do is say no.

Hey thanks ill try to talk to her at school tomorrow. Like just ask how she is and so.
Hope it all goes well.

Gamestar · **Posted:** October 15th, 2007, 12:56 pm

Good luck mate

Be sure to tell us (me?:O) how it goes.

Paras!te · **Posted:** October 15th, 2007, 6:20 pm

OH HAY GUYZ I NEED HELP

So uh, yea. There is this girl in my highschool, I just met her this year. She went to a different junior high. And to put it simply, I really, really like her. That part isn't what I need help with so I will keep it simple.

Now, at first I was doubting myself tremendously, but last week I kind of felt like she was flirting with me a bit. And I never assume stuff like this with false hope, I am really pessimistic to be honest. Now, it could mean nothing, but regardless, I now have enough confidence to see where this goes.

Now, 3 simple questions.

How can I tell if she likes me or not? Throw out anything, I am open for ideas.

How can I hint to her that I like her without seeming creepy or overbearing? I barely know any of her close friends, so I can't really have an...ambassador =/

I usually get really nervous when I talk to her, like expected, but instead of babbling like an idiot saying things that have no relevance at all. What are some general things I can say to her to show her I am interested in her without, once again, seeming to overbearing or creepy?

hey thx

dragoon 1138 · **Posted:** October 16th, 2007, 12:00 am

Paras!te wrote:

OH HAY GUYZ I NEED HELP

So uh, yea. There is this girl in my highschool, I just met her this year. She went to a different junior high. And to put it simply, I really, really like her. That part isn't what I need help with so I will keep it simple.

Now, at first I was doubting myself tremendously, but last week I kind of felt like she was flirting with me a bit. And I never assume stuff like this with false hope, I am really pessimistic to be honest. Now, it could mean nothing, but regardless, I now have enough confidence to see where this goes.

Now, 3 simple questions.

How can I tell if she likes me or not? Throw out anything, I am open for ideas.

How can I hint to her that I like her without seeming creepy or overbearing? I barely know any of her close friends, so I can't really have an...ambassador =/

I usually get really nervous when I talk to her, like expected, but instead of babbling like an idiot saying things that have no relevance at all. What are some general things I can say to her to show her I am interested in her without, once again, seeming to overbearing or creepy?

hey thx

ditto, except you have the girl+the entire 8th grade class.

Gamestar · **Posted:** October 16th, 2007, 3:13 am

Paras!te wrote:

Now, 3 simple questions.

How can I tell if she likes me or not? Throw out anything, I am open for ideas.

How can I hint to her that I like her without seeming creepy or overbearing? I barely know any of her close friends, so I can't really have an...ambassador =/

I usually get really nervous when I talk to her, like expected, but instead of babbling like an idiot saying things that have no relevance at all. What are some general things I can say to her to show her I am interested in her without, once again, seeming to overbearing or creepy?

hey thx

1) Generally, look for body language. If she blinks more and touches her hair and face it means that she is interested. If she sits facing towards you it is a good sign too. Theres also the flirting. If you really notice that she is flirting with you, then flirt back. Theres no harm in it.
2) Take a direct approach. Either be blatently flirtatious, or ask her out on a 'friend date'. By this, I mean find out if she is looking forward to any of the films in the cinema, then ask if she wants to go see one with you. Just be friendly and talk to her loads about whatever she wants to talk about.
3) See above. Talk about whatever she wants to talk about. This opens up two oportunity windows for you - you get to talk about relevant things, and you get to know her better. This could mean that she opens up to you more, and begins to trust you more.

Paras!te · **Posted:** October 16th, 2007, 12:44 pm

Would you be able to provide vague examples of things I can ask her that let her talk about herself that seem general and not, once again, creepy?

Gamestar · **Posted:** October 16th, 2007, 12:52 pm

"So, how was Junior High?"
"What do you think of _________"
"Do you like _______?"
"I like ____, do you?"
"Go on - tell me about you

"

I dunno.. Just do what you think is right.

♥☺Ohay☺♥ · **Posted:** October 16th, 2007, 12:53 pm

Paras!te wrote:

Would you be able to provide vague examples of things I can ask her that let her talk about herself that seem general and not, once again, creepy?

"Hey baby, A/S/L?"
Oh, not creepy...just act like(or better yet, be) genuinely interested in her, and ask her the questions without trying to candy coat it. Trust me, it's completely transparent even if you do try to hide the fact you're trying to get to know her better...so might as well just ask her flat out.
Not creepy things like...well, we won't go there. But her favorite movie, hobbies, what she wants to do with her life, etc. Girls like a guy who's interested in them.

Paras!te · **Posted:** October 16th, 2007, 6:12 pm

Ah, thanks.

My problem is I am always afraid she will think I am weird for asking =/

Guess I should just grow some balls >_<

Chop Ya Down · **Posted:** October 20th, 2007, 5:05 pm

Alright well this is more aimed for my firend. Recently she's been feeling sick alot often and she has been eating alot more often. She told me that and I asked her if she thought she is pregnant. Well she told me the last time she had unprotected intercourse with her boy, was about 4 1/2 weeks ago. So for those of you that have kids, do you think she could be or not? She told me shes going buy a pregnancy test but I just wanna know are these the early symptoms?

Excaliver888 · **Posted:** October 20th, 2007, 5:32 pm

Short and sweet, I like this girl who has been sitting next to me in class, and we've become friends. I can tell that she likes me, but will becoming boy/girl friends, then breaking up, end our friendship?

Chop Ya Down · **Posted:** October 20th, 2007, 5:44 pm

Excaliver888 wrote:

Short and sweet, I like this girl who has been sitting next to me in class, and we've become friends. I can tell that she likes me, but will becoming boy/girl friends, then breaking up, end our friendship?

Honestly it depends how long you've known her for. If its years that you've known her for, it generally wont end your firendship for the most part. If its lets say a couple of weeks or months It could or at least there is a higher chance that it will.

Excaliver888 · **Posted:** October 20th, 2007, 9:08 pm

Chop Ya Down wrote:

Excaliver888 wrote:

Short and sweet, I like this girl who has been sitting next to me in class, and we've become friends. I can tell that she likes me, but will becoming boy/girl friends, then breaking up, end our friendship?

Honestly it depends how long you've known her for. If its years that you've known her for, it generally wont end your firendship for the most part. If its lets say a couple of weeks or months It could or at least there is a higher chance that it will.

Its been 2 years. But of course the 1st year, we were mainly just acquaintances.

Gamestar · **Posted:** October 21st, 2007, 2:51 am

Short and simple answers today;

Chop Ya Down wrote:

Alright well this is more aimed for my firend. Recently she's been feeling sick alot often and she has been eating alot more often. She told me that and I asked her if she thought she is pregnant. Well she told me the last time she had unprotected intercourse with her boy, was about 4 1/2 weeks ago. So for those of you that have kids, do you think she could be or not? She told me shes going buy a pregnancy test but I just wanna know are these the early symptoms?

Morning sickness.. loss of apetite.. sounds about right.
Might aswell take the test, just to find out.

Excaliver888 wrote:

Short and sweet, I like this girl who has been sitting next to me in class, and we've become friends. I can tell that she likes me, but will becoming boy/girl friends, then breaking up, end our friendship?

Yes. "Lets be friends" never works.

Well, with that said, it is possible to be on good terms. I'm on good terms with all but one of my ex's, and I'm really close to one - but that took 3 years to get to.

Purez_Drizzt · **Posted:** October 23rd, 2007, 6:41 pm

Loner wrote:

Day 1
Well, I guess it started last night, I was online doing somethin for a school project ( >_< ) and It is due tomorrow, well I got a message from a friend askin for help on rs, and although I was supposed to do the project I popped on to show him where something was. My mom came in and saw me on and freaked out. She was like "Your supposed to be doing your project, maybe if you didn't just wait till today to start it you could be doing that" I then went and said "I was just helpin someone, jesus...." She then went off on something about that... wasn't paying attention because she was yelling... then my dad comes in, Let me fill you in on some stuff about him.

My dad likes to drink alcohol... alot

And he had only had a couple glasses of the dirnk he likes and he then went off on me, I ran into my room being <img src=http://runevillage.net/ThePub/images/smiles/bunny.gif></img> off atm and lwent out the front door to the side yard, my dad thought I went around back and I went to open front door to go in my room, sadly he locked the front door, I waited until I heard him come in the front door and rushed through the back into my room and locked the door. He then found out I was in there and was banging on the door for me to unlock it, I withstood for about 5 minutes, but it got sooo damn annoying so I unlocked it (I'm usally a realy shy, timid person but I was <img src=http://runevillage.net/ThePub/images/smiles/bunny.gif></img>) and he got in my face telling me about how I should have been doin this and that, well I got right back in his face and not budging or showing fear. At that point I realized they can't do anything serious with me besides ground me, or spank but that doesnt hurt... :roll:

I could tell they were <img src=http://runevillage.net/ThePub/images/smiles/bunny.gif></img> at me at the way they were acting and such, but I thought, hey, My dad's a drunk and my mom can be violent... Ima <img src=http://runevillage.net/ThePub/images/smiles/bunny.gif></img> them off like they do to me sometimes, so lately I have been acting awful, boohoo.

Day 2
Today started pretty much like normal, went to school, came back. I got off the bus just as my mom was comin home from work and I helped her with the groceried. Well with my report I had mostly done last night I still had to get my favorite actor and actress, my two favorite movies, two favorite tv shows, and my favorite move I have seen this summer, Well I do not have a favorite actor/actress, Only have one favorite tv show, and I havent seen any new movies this summer, did I mention I'm poor? Well, I get on the comp to browse RV and do my project, I cant think of anything so I go watch tv hopefully thinking I can come up with something for my project. Well the night before some images I got were printing at the wrong size, so while I was thinking my mom was telling me to get on the computer and do my project, I told her im thinking and she said "Well go fix the damn printer." So, I say "No." She gets real <img src=http://runevillage.net/ThePub/images/smiles/bunny.gif></img> and threatens to spank me with a wooden board... :roll:

Well then she goes and gets a belt trying to make me get on the comp and do it and she actually started to swing it, I ran and locked my self in the room and she goes to take the door knob off. I am like "What is your damn problem?" She then keeps complaing for me to get on comp and "get the damn thing done." I get on and type this...

GAH IM <img src=http://runevillage.net/ThePub/images/smiles/bunny.gif></img> <img src=http://runevillage.net/ThePub/images/smiles/bunny.gif></img>, HELP!!!!!!!!!

Day 3: After a solid night of seige I cannot hold out. I have sent out over five thousand emails hoping for reinforcements but noone has come yet. Each day my enemies grow smarter and each day my walls/troops grow weaker. I have to find some way out!. I had chinese for dinner tonight and my fortune cookie said, "Seek an alternative route away from your problem. So I have decided I am going to dig to china! Because me and my troops are in fact really hungry and maybe I can get some wall strengthening tips from the chinese. =) Best of regards

(The above was a little mild humor to hopefully Calm you down a bit)

Well first off dont retaliate it makes it worse. Parents are there to annoy us until we grow up. Just be glad you can be out of the house at 18. (Thats if your a U.S. Citizen Local laws may apply.)

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Short and sweet, I like this girl who has been sitting next to me in class, and we've become friends. I can tell that she likes me, but will becoming boy/girl friends, then breaking up, end our friendship?

It deppends how she takes it like mine did then yes. Of course my ex was a year younger then me. I cant stand her nowadays.

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