Hey everyone, just thought I'd try and become slightly more active than I was before, and thought I'd bring up some things most people think about, little say, and even fewer decide to act on.

True love. . . Is it real? Does it mean anything to you ?
Recently, I've watched a few movies (Change-Up, Just Go With It, Friends With Benefits) and they all seem to address true love in their own certain ways. . So I was wondering what everyone's take on this is, and does it actually exist for them, or is it a possibility in their lives.
Share your opinions, your experiences and just how you feel about the subject.

I'll kind of start it off. . . When I was about 14 I met a beautiful young girl, and the way I met her was odd enough, but I just went with the situation and it turned out great. . She became the best thing In my life and taught me to enjoy life for what it was, and not what I wasn't given. . . Long story short, she saved me. . . When she needed someone to save her.

Cliche of the year ~ Abusive family, father beat her. . . Drinking problems all around the family. . You know the story. Well one day she couldn't take it no more and decided to end her own life, and that's it, left a note for me and I recently just burned it, letting go of the pain and just keeping her in my memories, her and her beautiful brown eyes.

But it took me almost 6 years to realize that I truly loved this girl, and I didn't even know what love was, or anything about it. . . I guess that's just how life is.

Please guys, if anyone does choose to share something with us, respect them, their lives and their actions (if portrayed), I don't want no smart mouthing, just a good discussion, no picking on or being immature.

Thankyou in advance.

I'll quote myself, the following is something I wrote on RV some years ago...



As for true love, I can't be sure. My first serious relationship lasted for 4.5 years, through high school and part of college, through a pregnancy and a gorgeous baby girl, only to see it ultimately end in my significant other's cheating on me with a woman and then dumping me for said woman.

That said, you can understand my skepticism of this 'love' concept. But I am not the kind of person that gives up. Rather than sink into a crippling depression from which I would never return, I picked myself up and got back out there. I soon came to know a fabulous girl, quite the opposite of my ex. My assumption was that there were no such women in the world...you know...ones who were capable of compromise, stimulation in every sense of the word, and most importantly, unconditional love.

So yeah, our one year anniversary is coming up in less than a month and I couldn't be happier. In short, I believe true love exists because I've found it.

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I'm one of those hopeless romantic types who believes that there is always someone out there for you. I believe that true love exists...it just takes a lot of work finding it.

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Love isn't just about loving someone, it's having someone who can also be the best friend at the same time.

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@Lander, It's good to hear that you found that special someone, It really is something difficult. . And congrulations on your 1 year, hoping for many more.

@Simons pure, Each to there own bud haha. . . India would be a perfect place for you and your lamp.

@Rory, exactly mate, if it's all just sexual feelings, it simply won't go no where. . I mean you'd be able to do things, but never get to know each other and it just simply ends there.

This is a very important statement and I am very happy you said it. I simply cannot explain my experiences beyond what this quote encompasses.

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Bullwinkle: Hey Rocky, watch me pull a rabbit out of my hat.
Rocky: But that trick never works!

Love, eh? As in, romance? Oh, that would be a lifelong heart-rending boot up the arse that at best results in a dissatisfying compromise but usually dissipates or ends badly sooner or later.

It ain't all sunshine and lollipops, kids.

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Imagine a perfect beach
Without a mermaid
Imagine a perfect hideaway
Without a time
Imagine a perfect Eden
Without a friend, without a serpent
"Feeling lonely and content at the same time,
I believe, is a rare kind of happiness"

True love is when you hate being awake because she's not with you, and hate falling asleep because she's all you dream about.

Or maybe that's unhealthy obsession. I stopped being able to tell years ago.

I agree with this!

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Sounds like my last relationship. . . You know her too ? Agreed it generally doesn't end well, but that's what marriage / love is . . compromising to the point were no one is really happy, they are just simply content with the outcome. .

Yousif, you can't lump love and marriage together...I've loved and known I wouldn't end up marrying her.

That said...I think love is ever changing and different for everyone. Personally, every girl/woman I have loved I have loved in different ways. To me it isn't an all encompassing state mind, it's unique to each experience. I also believe that love changes as you experience it, fall out of it, and experience it again....almost like a desensitization (which happens with almost everything you'll ever experience).

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Hmm, kind of like there are different stages of love right?

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I'm not sure. What are they? Enlighten me.

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Considering the first post ends with a suicide, is there any reason you felt compelled to state this?

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Quit calling me names.

There are different forms of love, but I think it exists.

There's the type of unconditional love parents give their kids. That's probably the purest form of love for me, parents willing to do anything to ensure their kids are safe and happy.Sometimes it's even overdone and turns harmful. It's really a shame that kids don't always love their parents back the same way...

There's friend love, too. BROMANCE, haha. Kinda like to love someone vs being in love with someone, i guess. Good friends are hard to come by, but when you've got one or two, they'll be there for you through thick and thin and that's something you should never let go of.

And then there's romance love. It's hard to find, but it exists and it can tear you apart if things don't work out. I'm sorry for you loss, Yousif, that just straight up blows. It's good to see you're moving on, she wouldn't want you to be all sad, but to be happy

But when all is said and done, I LOVE LAMP.

-Phat

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Hmm, I'll try to explain the best to my ability.

There's the first stage: The honeymoon stage. Everyone goes through this. A person gets butterflies and positive thoughts everytime (s)he thinks about the person (s)he is in love with. The two people cannot wait to see each other, cannot get enough of each other, wants to tell it to the world, etc. It is basically all the good things that come with being in love for the first time, or falling in love.

Then there is the settlement stage: It has been a couple months, or maybe even a few years and the people are used to each other by now. There may be some small arguements, or disagreements but they know that they still love each other. I think at this point things start to become a bit more routine for both people.

Future stage: It's been a while, and the two people are starting to think about the future. They share their goals/ambitions with each other, and they go over both the positive and negative things about the relationships. They discuss things that they would have to work on, things they would have to compromise, etc. For some couples, maybe they are starting to fall out of love with each other and have to talk things out. For others, maybe there is more, such as marriage/growing old together.

That's as far as my thinking process will go for the stages for now. It's about 3:21am over here. I hope that is a somewhat good explanation.

I agree there are also different kinds of love: platonic, romantic, unconditional, etc. I am also starting to believe in soul mates and whatnot. Things like this interest me!

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Interesting. Yeah, I suppose that is what I'm talking about, in a way. It's all very chemical.

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That video is very touching, and describes the stages perfectly actually!

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