Unsure What To Do In A Situation? Do You Need Advice?

Discrimin8 · **Posted:** April 18th, 2010, 7:26 pm

The only advice I can give you, is that you chickity check yourself before you wreck yourself, because being depressed at your age is bad for your health.

Riptide · **Posted:** April 18th, 2010, 8:02 pm

Not scuicidal depressed, just I have a tiny group of friends, and somewhat weak emotional barrier.

Landerpurex · **Posted:** April 19th, 2010, 8:00 am

Discrimin8 wrote:

The only advice I can give you, is that you chickity check yourself before you wreck yourself, because being depressed at your age is bad for your health.

+1

Most girls like a fixxer upper, lol, but not someone who's clinically depressed.

Talk to her, find out what you guys do have in common.

Kikori · **Posted:** April 19th, 2010, 6:26 pm

Landerpurex wrote:

Discrimin8 wrote:

The only advice I can give you, is that you chickity check yourself before you wreck yourself, because being depressed at your age is bad for your health.

Most girls like a fixxer upper, lol, but not someone who's clinically depressed.

Depends. An enabler would be quite content having someone who could benefit from interacting with them, though it's unfair to the enabler if the one they're enabling isn't making a conscious effort to improve their self.

Figuring out what kind of person she is, though, is probably as important as finding the similarities. Rational thinkers need to have someone who can rationalize, people who go by feelings and reading others more than simply listening for the "I want"s and "I like"s need to be clued in a bit towards what you want, and so on. Whether between strangers, friends, and spouses, knowing that will definitely help you tell if you're able to mesh with a person.

Simons Pure · **Posted:** April 19th, 2010, 6:38 pm

Riptide wrote:

And don't give me that, "I'm too young" crap.

But you are...

Thyker · **Posted:** April 19th, 2010, 9:07 pm

Riptide wrote:

And ummm... My unwillingness to push myself...

That's going to be problem not just in relationships but in a lot of things later in life if you don't change that. A good thing to mention though, is that there is a right and wrong way to push yourself and you may just have to figure that out on your own.

Riptide · **Posted:** April 24th, 2010, 12:37 pm

Not like that, either. I mean, I hate band, and I just don't doing the practice thing.

The123king · **Posted:** June 22nd, 2010, 11:05 am

Riptide wrote:

Bump...
So, there's this girl I like... she's always optimistic, I'm normally depressed. We have a few things in common. But the main thing that tears me apart is how differently we act. I'm normally... energetic, which leads me to saying things I don't mean.(Not to her). She's a good student. And ummm... My unwillingness to push myself... Basically, we're opposites, but I like her. And don't give me that, "I'm too young" crap.

Good advice: Steer clear. I've had experience with opposites (my first crush was a shy bookworm who sat at the back of the class) and they never ended up very well. And if you do have a relationship, because you're opposites you share very few likes with her. Basically, try your best to move on. It took me a few years to get over her myself, so i know it's hard.

ACher91 · **Posted:** July 27th, 2010, 9:27 am

Help!!! I got pked and lost 168m!! D: Then my rs gf broke up with me cuz I haven't given her free stuff in a long time!! :cry:

What should I do!??? :cry:

Rory · **Posted:** July 27th, 2010, 9:45 am

Hideyoshi wrote:

Where do I find a girl that will let me sit inside her basement all day while I play games and watch anime?

On the internet.
Wait, do girls even exist on the internet?

Peterpan538 · **Posted:** August 7th, 2010, 6:52 pm

yuriart10 · **Posted:** October 5th, 2010, 7:44 pm

I am quite possible going to do something stupid.

VERY VERY VERY stupid, infact it might get me banned.

i think its HILARIOUS...but other people will whine and flail

i'm thinking of going with my super funny avatar and signature

Nate · **Posted:** October 12th, 2010, 5:26 pm

yuriart10 wrote:

I am quite possible going to do something stupid.

VERY VERY VERY stupid, infact it might get me banned.

i think its HILARIOUS...but other people will whine and flail

i'm thinking of going with my super funny avatar and signature

???

Brae · **Posted:** October 16th, 2010, 6:09 pm

Alright, kind of messed up scenario. My "friend" was dating a girl for over a year, but he was a complete jerk to her (for sake of the censor). Now, the one night while he was still dating her, we were camping and he was again, being a jerk, and she ran off. Being the type of guy I am I chased after her to make sure she was okay, and we ended up sitting and talking for about an hour. During this time I completely fell for her, but I'm not the kind of guy to go in and "console" her, so to speak. Ever since we've been great friends, but I still have strong feelings for her. My friend and her recently broke it off about 3 weeks ago, again with him being a jerk, and now I don't know what to do. Should I risk losing the "friend" (we barely talk anymore) and try and go for the girl (who I don't know if she has the same feelings for me), or just leave the girl as just a friend?

Also, she kind of thinks that i'm a player, because I work at a bar and always have funny stories regarding drunk girls, and she's seen me constantly flirting with girls because of the nature of the job. How would be the best way to try and show her I wouldn't be like that if I was with her?

Discrimin8 · **Posted:** October 16th, 2010, 7:00 pm

Brae wrote:

Alright, kind of messed up scenario. My "friend" was dating a girl for over a year, but he was a complete jerk to her (for sake of the censor). Now, the one night while he was still dating her, we were camping and he was again, being a jerk, and she ran off. Being the type of guy I am I chased after her to make sure she was okay, and we ended up sitting and talking for about an hour. During this time I completely fell for her, but I'm not the kind of guy to go in and "console" her, so to speak. Ever since we've been great friends, but I still have strong feelings for her. My friend and her recently broke it off about 3 weeks ago, again with him being a jerk, and now I don't know what to do. Should I risk losing the "friend" (we barely talk anymore) and try and go for the girl (who I don't know if she has the same feelings for me), or just leave the girl as just a friend?

Also, she kind of thinks that i'm a player, because I work at a bar and always have funny stories regarding drunk girls, and she's seen me constantly flirting with girls because of the nature of the job. How would be the best way to try and show her I wouldn't be like that if I was with her?

Explain it to her.

Stop flirting at the bar, or at least, be subtle about it.

That's pretty much all you can do. If she has some preconceived notion about you being a player, explain to her that it isn't the case.

Brae · **Posted:** October 16th, 2010, 7:32 pm

it's not like i intentionally flirt with girls to try and pick them up type thing, but you get a lot of attention from girls when you work security

Discrimin8 · **Posted:** October 16th, 2010, 8:30 pm

Brae wrote:

it's not like i intentionally flirt with girls to try and pick them up type thing, but you get a lot of attention from girls when you work security

That wasn't my point.

Godders · **Posted:** October 17th, 2010, 1:05 am

For once Dan has some good advice :O

Discrimin8 · **Posted:** October 17th, 2010, 1:14 am

I always have good advice.

I'm just never able to take my own...

So, I ask you all for some help.

4 years ago, my parents began to... Have some issues, to put it in the most kind terms. (really doesn't scratch the surface, but w/e) At the time, I was 12 years old, and, unfortunately for me, I'm a major right-brained thinker. I realized and understood what was going on, and I was pretty much shattered by it. Some things happened that landed me in an outpatient psych hospital. Over the next 4 years, the relationship between my parents got worse and worse, and until recently, I pretty much bottled up every single emotion that hit me, positive or negative. I dropped out of school, and slumped into a pretty inactive life. I have no motivation... No friends/social life outside of the internet... I have no job, no money, and nothing to do.

That's not the bad part, however, I can cope with that. What's really tearing me apart as of late, is that my parents are officially getting a divorce in a few weeks, and when school ends for my 3 siblings, my father is taking them and moving to another city closer to where he works, to live on a bigger house on 10 acres etc etc. A big improvement from the city-block house we live in now. However... I don't know the city. I don't know anyone there. I don't know my father's girlfriend. Above all else, I don't want to leave my mom, who's been there night and day for me, taking care of my diabetes, and getting me out of deep Fuzzy Bunny

for the past 16 years. At the same time, I need my quality of life to improve. I need to build some structure, some foundation for my future, and going with my dad seems like the best option, for me.

I've been dwelling on this for weeks now, and I'm really at a loss of wtf to do. I really need some help...

Riptide · **Posted:** October 19th, 2010, 6:43 pm

Divorces are never good, especially for the kids. I don't really like to talk about it, but my parents got divorced when I was 4. So for the main thing, expect fights, and brace yourself for them. A LOT of fights will occur. As for right now, I'd suggest getting a stable foundation. A good job. I'm 11, so I have barely any experience in "life". But for now, that's all I can suggest.

Feel free to not listen to me cause I'm younger.

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